This is for all the fathers. No matter if you’re a first time father, a godfather, or you died before you could see your child grow up. You will do whatever is necessary to protect your child, whether it’s to fight or to flee.
This day is special and it’s just for you, Happy Fathers Day.
cambridge university students were asked on campus why they needed feminism. here are 60 answers. click the link for over 600 more.
“I need feminism because…..”
“I <3 baking & so does my dad!”
“I’m bored of being told to man up.”
“Because wearing pink doesn’t make me a sissy.”
I have struggled, pretty hard, to put into word why I am so uncomfortable with parts of this campaign. And, upon finally examining these more closely, it became really apparent.
It’s because, even when talking about feminism, men can find ways to make it about them.
Feminism, something that I regard very, very highly in my heart, my mind, and my world view, is a movement that has been designed for the liberation of women. I do believe that it has grown so that it should encompass non-binary trans* people as well (although more particularly, those that are subjected to sexism and oppression when people misgender them and perceive them as women). I do agree that we have space within our wonderful movement to do things like examine the ways that patriarchy hurts men, and to look at rape culture and the ways in which it affects men.
But this is, fundamentally, not a movement for men. It is not. Our priority isn’t equality. It’s dismantling patriarchy. It’s drawing attention to the issues that women face today (though I acknowledge that not all feminism is directed at all women, and often excludes WoC and trans women—which is disgusting, and not okay, but that’s another can of worms, to be saved for an intersectional feminism post).
I appreciate the men who know that they need feminism because there is something deeply wrong with the way our world is today…. like the men who are saying that they need feminism because of rape statistics, or because they’ve seen misogyny and sexism and inequality at work.
But the men I quoted above? The ones who “need feminism” for some trivial thing that they enjoy doing or wearing? Maybe they are trying to say, “I need feminism because when I do things that are considered ‘feminine’ it shouldn’t be an insult to me, because femininity is not an insult.” But all I see is men coming in and interrupting a good thing, to complain about how their society, in which “woman” is an insult, harms them. (Also, there’s a special hell for the man who is “bored of being told to man up…” YOU ARE BORED? YOU ARE BORED, SO YOU ARE MOVING INTO A FEMINIST SPACE AND DERAILING OUR CONVERSATIONS? We aren’t here for you to PLAY WITH when you are BORED….)
When men say they need feminism because they like to bake, or wear skirts, or wear pink, or don’t like having their manhood questioned…. I get pretty damn skeptical as to whether or not they are actually feminist-allies, or just men who think they can get something out of feminism. Until I see that you are paying attention to rape statistics of women, that you are fully comprehending WHY you get shamed for your baking and wearing pink, I am going to assume you are just another man out to use women for personal gain.
Men shouldn’t be asking what feminism can do for them, but what they can do for feminism. And that’s what all the other men of this project were able to comprehend.
It’s very simple. Scissors cuts paper. Paper covers rock. Rock crushes lizard. Lizard poisons Spock. Spock smashes scissors. Scissors decapitates lizard. Lizard eats paper. Paper disproves Spock. Spock vaporizes rock. And as it always has, rock crushes scissors.